BDSM

Your quick reference to BDSM - Bondage, Discipline and Sadomasochism

1. 24/7

   24-hours, 7 days a week.
   Where the sub lives with, and is controlled by, the Mistress on that basis.

2. A, A/S, A/W

   Anal sex, to receive Anal Service, Anal Worship.
   Adult Babies: Grown-ups who wish to be treated as babies.
   This can include the wearing of nappies, bottle feeding and changing.

3. AB

   Adult Babies: Grown-ups who wish to be treated as babies.
   This can include the wearing of nappies, bottle feeding and changing.

4. Algolagnia

   Medical/psychological term for the love of pain.

5. Amyl Nitrate

   A stimulant which can heighten the senses and intensify orgasm.
   See also 'Poppers'.

6. Auto-Eroticism

   Do it Yourself. Masturbation.

7. BDSM

   It is generally accepted within the scene that these initials mean Bondage & Domination, Sadism & Masochism, but also that they are extended to Bondage & Discipline / Domination & Submission / Sadism & Masochism.

8. Blood Sports

   Involves cutting, piercing or the drawing of blood.

9. Body Bag

   A fully enclosed rubber bag into which the slave or submissive is sealed. Used in restriction or mummification games.

10. Body Worship

    To kiss or lick the Mistress's body. Often the legs, feet or anus.

11. Bondage

    The generic term for practising tying or restraint. Bondage takes many forms, including elaborate rope bondage, chains, metal handcuffs or leather restraints, as examples.

12. Boot Worship

    To kiss or lick the boots or shoes worn by the Mistress.

13. Bottom

    Another term for a submissive.

14. Breath Play

    To have one's breathing restricted or controlled.

15. Brown Showers

    Sometimes referred to as 'hard sports'. To be defecated upon. See also 'Scat' and 'Caviar'.

16. Body Modification

    To have the body modified by piercing or cutting.

17. Butt-Plug

    There many types, sizes and models of Butt Plugs. Rubber, latex, metal, inflatable, to name but a few.

18. Cage

    A metal cage in which the submissive is locked as part of a scene.

19. Caviar

    See also 'Brown Showers'.
    An alternative term. Caning.

20. Corporal Punishment

    Inflicted by the Mistress, often in schoolboy games.

21. Cat

    Traditional cat-o'nine-tails, consisting of nine strands of leather attached to a handle.
    The cat leaves lasting marks, and inflicts extreme pain if wielded harshly.

22. Catheter

    The insertion of a tube or other object into the penis and thence to the bladder. Often used in medical scenes. There are obvious health and safety implications associated with this type of play. See also 'Sound'.

23. CBT

    Cock and Ball torture.

24. CBT Board

    A wooden or leather board designed to hold the penis and testicles whilst they are tortured. It is usually attached with clamps.

25. CD

    Cross-dressing. To dress, or be forcibly dressed, as a female.

26. Chamber

    The room in which a Mistress plays. Can also be called a Dungeon.

27. Clamps:

    Clips, often metal, sometimes clothes pegs, which are attached to the nipples, penis or scrotum.

28. Clingfilm

    The common kitchen wrap.
    Very effective when used in mummification games. See also 'Mummification'.

29. Collar

    Worn to denote submissiveness or slavery.

30. Cock Ring

    A ring made from metal, rubber or leather, worn round the base of the penis. A Cock Ring can either help sustain an erection, or prevent one if applied to a flaccid penis.

31. Coprophilia

    The technical term for scat games.

32. CP

    Corporal punishment.

33. Crop

    The thing that jockeys use on horses. A well applied crop causes significant pain, and will leave marks, even when applied lightly.

34. Cuffs

    Either metal or leather, and worn on the wrists and/or ankles as a method of restraint.

35. Cutting

    Involves being cut with a scalpel.
    Dangerous, and not recommended. (See also scarification, below).

36. Dildo Training

    A dildo is inserted into the rectum.
    There are various sizes, from finger size to enormous.

37. Dog Training

    You're the dog. Wear a collar and lead, eat and drink from a bowl on the floor,
    beg and bark.

38. Dom

    A Male Dominant.

39. Domination

    To be dominated by a Mistress. This includes obeying instructions, carrying out tasks, humiliation and being dominated generally.

40. Domina, Domme, Dominant, Dominatrix:

    Various alternative terms which may be used to describe a Mistresses.

41. Dungeon

    Most Mistresses refer to the room where they play as a dungeon. Usually it is just a converted room in a house or flat, rather than the traditional cellar.

42. Edge-Play

    This means that the scene will be taken to extreme limits. Edge play should only be
    contemplated by those experienced in BDSM. This is definitely not for the novice.

43. Electric's

    To be tortured or stimulated with a low-voltage electrical device, such as a 'Violet Wand', PES or a TENS unit. There are both dildo and catheter attachments which can deliver an internal electric shock. WARNING: Never use, or allow to be used, mains-powered (except the violet wand) electrical stimulation devices. Never use electric devices above the waist.

44. Enema

    Lots of fun if you are into it. An enema is used to fill the colon with water or other liquid. Often used in medical scenes.

45. Fantasy

    Many and varied. Whatever your fantasy, you can wager your pension that someone else, somewhere, has a similar fantasy. Some Mistresses will indulge your fantasies.

46. Feminisation

    To be dressed and often made-up as a female, either voluntarily or enforced.

47. Face Sitting

    To have your face sat upon by the Mistress, sometimes as part of breathing restriction games.

48. Fetish, Fetishist

    Fetish is a term used to describe a specific area of interest, likewise a fetishist is one who participates in those fetishes. There are probably a hundred or more activities which can be described as fetishes, but a representative example are those involving rubber, latex, PVC or leather.

49. Fisting

    A hand is inserted into the anus and then balled into a fist. The submissive needs to be experienced to receive a fist, and the Mistress skilled to perform it.

50. Foot Fetish or Worship

    To kiss or lick the feet of the Mistress.

51. Flogger

    A rubber, latex or leather multi-stranded whip.

52. Gags

    Many kinds available, but are often ball gags, or penis-shaped gags. Sometimes inflatable.

53. Gates of Hell

    Leather or rubber device consisting of several straps which enclose and restrict the penis and testicles. Used as a male chastity device.

54. Golden Showers or G/S

    To be urinated upon. Occasionally referred to as Golden Wine or Golden Champagne. See also 'watersports', below.

55. Hard Sports

    Scat games.

56. Harness

    Usually leather or rubber, worn by the submissive. The harness will sometimes restrict the movement of the arms.

57. Health and Safety

    This is a huge area. However, basically, only ever use equipment which has been sterilised if it is invasive. Tell the Mistress if you have any medical conditions - especially if cardio-vascular. Many Mistresses are happy to see those who are HIV+. Just tell her. Never play without a safe word. Always use a condom, even if the end result is auto-erotic. You know, all common sense stuff.

58. Hood

    Hoods are usually rubber, leather, latex or PVC and totally enclose the head. There are many different types of hood, but some have gags or zips fitted to restrict vision and breathing. Very efficient when used as part of sensory deprivation games.

59. Toilet Training

    You're the toilet, and often restrained in a toilet box, whilst the mistress urinates or defecates on you.

60. Humiliation

    Takes many forms, but is exactly what it says. To be humiliated forms a part of many scenes, and can be related to body shape or penis size, among other things.

61. Hypnotism

    Some Mistresses engage in hypno-play. You have to make your own mind up about getting into this, but it can be very exciting if the Mistress is an experienced practitioner.

62. Ice

    Ice can be used very effectively as an instrument of torture.

63. Infantilism

    See Adult Babies above.

64. Interrogation

    A type of role play - can be very intense. Interrogation may involve torture.

65. Klismaphilia

    A love of enemas. Enema games.

66. Lash

    Descriptive of any kind of whip.

67. Leather

    Well, you can find hundreds of items of leather clothing and other ephemera on the web and in specialist shops.

68. Maid Training

    Wearing a maid's outfit. Cleaning, serving the Mistress and generally acting as a maid.

69. Marks

    Most Mistresses will ask before marking you. Remember that even the lightest application of a whip or crop will leave marks which will be visible for anything from several hours to several days.

70. Medical Scenes

    Where the Mistress plays the role of doctor or nurse. Often involves the use of rectal exams, enemas and catheters. Occasionally, body-neutral fluids are injected under the skin.

71. Mummification

    The whole body is wrapped in Clingfilm or other suitable wrapping, or enclosed in a body bag. Breathing is often controlled via a mouth or nose tube.

72. Nipple Training, N/T

    Clamps are used on the nipples. Any application of pain to the nipples.

73. Obedience

    Mistresses will expect absolute, unquestioning, obedience to their commands.

74. Oral Service

    Some Mistresses will allow you to do this. Most won't.

75. PA

    Prince Albert. A ring which pierces through the urethra and comes out of the underside of the penis. There are several piercing and modification sites where you can see photographic examples of the PA.

76. Panty Boys

    Those who like to wear female underwear, especially panties, as part of a scene.

77. Parachute

    Parachute-shaped rubber or leather attachment for the scrotum or penis. Weights are then placed in it to stretch the penis and testicles.

78. Pet Training

    To be trained as a dog, pony or other pet.

79. Piercing

    Either temporary or permanent. If temporary, needles are used and removed at the end of the scene. There are many kinds of body piercing which are permanent, including piercings to the genitalia and nipples.

80. Play

    To participate in a BDSM scene.

81. Pony Boys, Pony Training

    This involves acting as a pony, pulling a small trailer with Mistress in. And guess where you wear the tail.

82. Poppers

    A liquid stimulant which is sniffed. Poppers act by increasing the heart rate and raising the blood pressure. They can intensify orgasm.

83. Pro-Domme

    Descriptive of a Professional Dominatrix. Payment is expected.

84. Prostate Milking

    A method of provoking ejaculation without touching the penis. The prostate is massaged internally, causing semen to leave the ampulla, a storage reservoir, and ejaculate. When used in conjunction with a chastity device and ice on the penis and testicles, the pleasure can be removed from the act of ejaculation leaving the male drained of semen and making enforced chastity much easier.

85. R/L

    Real life. For example, where one has a real-life Mistress. Usually descriptive of a situation that is not fantasy, but reality. See 24/7 above.

86. Rack:

    Exactly the same as the Medieval torture instrument.

87. Restriction Games

    A part of the bondage scene. Often where breathing is restricted or controlled.

88. Role-Play

    You both act out roles, teacher/pupil or nurse/patient for example. Usually, only the broad outlines are sketched out, and the Mistress runs and controls the play.

89. Rubber, Latex, PVC

    Worn or used in scenes.
    It is possible to acquire a massive wardrobe of clothing and toys.

90. S.S.C

    Safe, Sane, Consensual. What all your scenes should be.

91. St Andrew's Cross

    A diagonal cross upon which the submissive is tied.

92. S&M

    Sadism and masochism.

93. Safety

    Make sure you negotiate exactly where you want to go with the Mistress. Ensure that you fully explain your limits. No good Mistress will exceed your limits. See 'Safe-Word', below.

94. Safe-Word

    Any Mistress worth her salt will give you a safe-word before you start playing. Use of the word instantly stops play, and is used when your limits have been reached. Remember, fantasy is a long way from reality. You may not like what is being done to you. Never play without a safe-word.

95. Scarification

    To be cut and scarred. The scars are often stylised, and displayed in the same way as tattoos.

96. Scat

    Oh well, people do it. Playing with excrement; being used as a toilet.

97. Scene

    BDSM generally is referred to as 'The Scene'. 'To Scene' is to play BDSM games.

98. School Room

    Where schoolboy/teacher scenes are played out, with the Mistress acting as the teacher.

99. Sex

    I don't know of any genuine Mistress who allows sex as part of the scene, other than DIY.

100. Sissy Boy, Sissification

     Much like Panty Boy, above. Sissification means enforced feminisation.

101. Slave, Slave-Slut

     Most Dominas will expect you to behave exactly like a slave. Slaves are often referred to as slave-sluts

102. Smoke

     The Mistress will exhale cigarette smoke, often into the filter tube of a gas mask worn by the sub. Any game involving cigarette or cigar smoke.

103. Snake Bite

     A rubber suction cup is applied to the skin. Be aware that it leaves a mark like a love-bite.

104. Sound

     Metal medical instrument which is inserted into the penis. Occasionally, a lubricated cotton bud is used instead of a purpose made metal sound.

105. Speculum

     Metal medical instrument which is used to open and expand the anus.

106. Spreader Bars

     A rigid bar attached to ankle or wrist cuffs. Designed to hold the legs or arms apart.

107. Strap-On, Strap-On Games

     The Mistress wears a latex penis strap-on and you are expected to receive it.

108. Submissive, Sub

     Mistress is the Dominant, you are the submissive.

109. Suspension

     Being hung up, or suspended, by the tied wrists, wrists and ankles or even feet.

110. Switch

     A person who can 'switch' between being either a Dominant or a submissive.

111. TV, Transvestism

     Dressing like a woman, usually in a very convincing manner.

112. TENS Unit

     Battery powered device for delivering a low-voltage electric shock.

113. Toilet Box

     Laying on your back, a toilet box is a purpose-built box, with a toilet seat on top, which fits round the head. Mistress then sits on the box.

114. Top

     Another word for Domme, Dominatrix or Dom.

115. Topping from the bottom

     Descriptive of a bottom who tries to run a scene from a submissive position. Nothing is more calculated to irritate a Mistress.

116. Torture

     Generic term for activities which occur during a scene. Can be from mild to extreme.

117. Tribute

     The money that is paid to a Pro-Domme

118. Vanilla

     Descriptive of people who are not active in the BDSM scene.

119. Violet Wand

     Low-voltage electrical device which produces static electricity. Used to torture and/or stimulate the penis, scrotum and anus.

120. Wax

     Hot candle wax dripped on the body is an effective means of inflicting pain.

121. Watersports, WS

     As Golden Showers, above.

122. Weights

     Often attached to the penis, testicles or nipples to stretch them.

123. Wheel

     A free-spinning wheel to which the submissive is tied and rotated round. Sometimes called the Catherine Wheel.

124. Whip

     Spare me the lash.